Selecting a mantra - or self-affirmation - that helps you to play your best under current circumstances isn't so difficult.
Sometimes I shorten it to one
or two words, like when my serve is off; just before my toss, I say to myself,
“great serve” or “great toss.” By the same token, if my partner’s serve or
return-of-serve is off; as she’s walking to the service line, I’ll say to her,
“great serve” or “great return” – just to plant that seed in her mind! It’s so
easy and so hopeful. This way, win or lose, I haven’t been peppering myself or
my partner with negative messages. We can still feel good about the game – and
each other. After all, it is only a game – not a matter of life or death.
By the way. When changing sides, have
you ever heard an opponent say something like this; “I’m just having a bad
day?” If this is a team match and you want that trend to continue, never disagree.
This little secret is between you and me. For the sake of your team, of course!
On the other hand, if your partner
says the same thing, reply something like this; “that was before; this is now.
Things change! I have faith in you. We have them now.” Remember – first person,
present tense, positive language.
Happy Hitting! And feel free to pass this message on or comment.
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